Education in Private Kindergartens and Myths About Raising Children

Parents are bombarded daily with advice on how to raise their children “correctly.” From well-meaning relatives to influencers and parenting experts, everyone seems to have an opinion, a piece of advice, or a success story that simply must be shared. But the truth is that many of these beliefs are merely myths, outdated ideas, or generalizations that no longer apply to children with high intellectual potential, such as those we have at our kindergarten.

We like to believe that intelligence is a fixed inheritance or, in any case, the result of the efforts of “perfect” parents. We look for private kindergartens that can guarantee our children an admirable start, and we would like every small talent they have to become a potential successful career. But what if things are not quite that simple? Sometimes, the ocean of beliefs about raising children is precisely what limits us. Let’s look beyond clichés and honestly ask ourselves what role we should truly play in our child’s growth and education.

The environment and experiences in private kindergartens matter more.

Many parents believe that a child’s intelligence is a fixed genetic inheritance that they cannot influence. However, neuroscience research shows exactly the opposite. A child’s brain is remarkably adaptable, and their everyday experiences play a decisive role in cognitive development. Early exposure to social interaction through the educational system in private kindergartens and the diversification of additional activities — reading, music, movement, and sensory exploration — are what stimulate the formation of new neural connections.

A study conducted at Harvard demonstrated that frequent interactions with parents and teachers, open conversations, and creative activities can have a major impact on children’s cognitive development¹. That is why many private kindergartens around the world focus on experiential and exploratory learning, providing children with a stimulating, nurturing environment in which they can develop their natural abilities. Therefore, there is no fixed “intellectual destiny” determined at birth. Children learn, grow, and continuously shape themselves through the experiences they live, and we can do no more than offer them a balanced learning environment.

There is no perfect parent, but being authentic is important.

Society is often the one that projects the image of the ideal parent — calm, patient, and always in control. However, this perfection is unrealistic and, sometimes, even harmful. Children learn how to manage their own emotions by observing and imitating adults. If a parent hides their feelings, the child has no way of knowing that it is normal to sometimes feel sad, angry, or insecure, and they lose the opportunity to develop self-awareness.

Instead, if you adopt an emotionally authentic attitude — without necessarily burdening your child with your own worries — you offer them a healthier and more realistic model. If you want to discover how to build a more balanced relationship with your child, we recommend our article about 3 effective parenting principles in child education..

For example, a parent who says: “I had a difficult day today, I’m a little tired, but I’m happy to spend time with you” shows their child that all types of emotions are normal and, most importantly, manageable. Such an approach is built within relationships based on trust and openness. Just like educators in private kindergartens, who are trained to be authentic while also tactful when interacting with children in the classroom, parents should also be open and express their feelings honestly, without hiding from their little ones.

Education in private kindergartens is an advantage for the child, but it is not everything.

In recent years, more and more parents have been looking for a private kindergarten that can provide their children with as many tools and skills as possible for a future that promises to be dynamic. We adapt our educational programs to the best practices in the field, work with smaller classes, and prepare each child with a focus on academic success. The involvement of parents helps us just as much.

A report by the National Institute for Early Education Research shows that daily interaction between parent and child — conversations, reading together, play, and creative activities — influences cognitive development more than the kindergarten curriculum². In other words, quality education does not depend exclusively on the private system or material resources, but on the way children are encouraged to think, explore, and learn with joy. Thus, regardless of how advanced the system in these private kindergartens may be, true progress comes from the way parents support their children outside the educational program.

Not every talent becomes a career; some passions are simply for personal enjoyment.

When a child shows talent in a particular area — whether it is drawing, music, sports, or science — parents tend to see it as a possible future career path. Although it is important to support their passions, these should remain a source of joy, not an obligation.

Child psychology specialists emphasize that imposing a hobby or a creative activity can lead to stress and emotional exhaustion³. That is why our educators in private kindergartens encourage the free exploration of children’s passions, without forcing any rigid goals, allowing them to discover what truly makes them happy. A child who loves playing the piano will not necessarily become a musician, just as someone passionate about mathematics does not have to pursue a career in engineering. Sometimes, the most beautiful passions are those that remain hobbies, without the pressure of performance.

Instead of following formulas, we should follow our children.

Ultimately, we raise children without blindly following generalized advice. Every child is different, and their success does not depend on beliefs passed down to us from generation to generation.

The truth is that parents do not need to be perfect, and today’s children are intelligent enough without us pressuring them to become child prodigies. What truly matters is raising balanced, curious, and happy children — regardless of the paths they choose. And for that, what is needed is connection, authenticity, and emotional support rather than perfection. Whether we choose traditional education or rely on learning systems in private kindergartens, involvement, patience, and love will always remain a child’s best teachers.

 [1] Heckman, J. J. (2011). The Economics of Inequality: The Value of Early Childhood Education. American Educator, 35(1), 31–35.
 [2] Barnett, W. S. (2013). Preschool Education and Its Lasting Effects: Research and Policy Implications. National Institute for Early Education Research.
 [3] Duckworth, A. L. (2016). Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Scribner.